Words of a player or a wise man?

“Just because you like someone does not mean you should be with them.”

wow

I just occurred to me that i may not be as smart as i think i am……….
Now thats a depressing thought.

The Cheese stands alone

Of late there has been a spate of marriages amongst my male friends…. If they not getting married.. they are starting to talk of settling down.. as if to say the days of their youth are now over and it is time to grow up…….

But like i told my cousin.. I shall fight adulthood to the bitter end………I shall be the one to say, as Barak did, “Not this Time”.

Nay! I shalt not walk down that Isle, for on that path lies an end and a begining….
an End to frivolous eccentricities and a beginning of responsibility
an end to stupidity and a beginning of thought
an end to self indulgence and a beginning of a partnership
an end to reckless abandon and a beginning of steps made together

But no, not I, Not this time, for i shall remain the child.

Typical jamaican Male

A scourge on the planet?… that which give all men a bad name?…….
Again I find Myself thinking like Hope Hubris.

A talk.

Just had a talk with my cousin, another in what is fast becoming a regular ’sunday’ talk where we discuss  whats happening in our lives and to give each other advice. Todays talk however has left me with a headache.
I love my cousin… she has been there for as far back as I can remember… and her frankness has always been just the thing I need to open my eyes to what going on, helping me to see to the flimsy excuses i give myself for the things that i do…..

In any case, this talk has me realizing some things… I need to stop.
She has now convinced me that i need to Migrate at some point in the near future… but she has also made realize that this is something i need to pray about…..
She has shown me how I have started to poison something i love deeply and how i need to stop before it is too late……..
She has also shown me that a need for independence does not neccessitate a fivalous stupidity and that i should strive for balance… not extremes .

All these are things that many friends and family members have been trying to tell me for years…. I don’t know why it hit home today….. sooo I will try…. My track record in the past does make the outlook for this latest attempt seem promising… but if you never try to improve yourself …. you never get better

An intresting comment……

This was taken from Emanicipated’s blog…. I love it

“Through all this clarity you are also clear on the fact that young impressionable youths should be inoculated against the affliction of LOVE until they are 33 and have been exposed to a lesson in patience, trust, your limits and acceptance that you are stupid and foolish in matters of the heart.”

Its easier Not to……

In the beginning of any relationship there are things both parties do that make the world a better place, or makes their heart beat fast… or even just makes their partner feel good.

However, as relationship progresses these things often stop happening, and  I have often wondered why. Why do you loose the vibe to do the ‘little’ things for your partner…. why does become something that it is just easier for you not to do. Why dopes one become complacent…..
I dont know the answer but I know it is human nature…..

Once the momentum is lost however…. you need to work at it… it requires conscious effort and that can be difficult.

The thing about children is…

Disclaimer: This post is by no means an indication of me changing my mind about wanting children….. I still do NOT wish to have any.

In recent days I have been thinking about what it would be like to raise a child. What lessons would i want them to learn, and more importantly, what would i do to foster the kind of development i would want for the child.

This of course leaves me discouraged and more convinced than ever i really don’t want the responsibility. I doubt i am disciplined enough to do what i think should be the bare minimum.

Being a Father Requires:

1.> Be there for your wife. Pregnant women can be a bit hormonal… they will often times be in such a state that the last thing you want is to be around her…… Yet to be a good husband you must grin and Bear it… be present, strong and supportive…. Even when you think it may drive you crazy.

2.> Communicate. I am a strong believer in reading to the child in the womb, as well as, playing edifying and interesting Music…… I am aware, however, that this is easier said that done.

3.> Stay in the delivery room…. Do not pass out, throw up, or cry…… Be a man.

4.>Be there for your wife…… I believe that women love to hog ‘baby time’. By this I mean it takes a while for some to trust that their husband wont inadvertently drop the baby. If this is the case Do EVERYTHING ELSE you can…… on top of that… make sure she get ‘breaks’ … treat her often.

5.> Engage to your child….. DO NOT PUT THEM IN FRONT OF THE TV. Read to them play with them…. interact with them in a way that is more stimulating than absorbing images from a screen.

6.> Be patient with you child. Answer their Questions…. or find creative ways for them to find the answers themselves… interact with them yet instill Discipline

7.> Be Open. Listen to your child…..

8.>Be one with your partner……… Ensure You and your wife are on the same wavelength when it comes to the child

What was posted above are just 8 things… my list goes on and on… and I realize it is easier said than done.